Oh, Anon, Anon, Anon……..have a seat, because this may take awhile.
First and foremost, relationships vary from person to person, and the way you interact with someone might be completely different than the way you act with someone else. It’s about how your personalities mesh together, and has very little to do with closeness.
Over the course of seven years, Ron and Hermione have a handful of fights. Let’s be fair about this, shall we? Think of how often you argued with friends at school. You saw them from about 8 to 3 every day, five days a week, and sometimes it got to be too much. Ron and Hermione see each other every day for the entire school year, several Christmas breaks, and a good chunk of the summers. Two people with strong opinions are bound to rub each other wrong under those circumstances.
But let’s look at Harry and Hermione. Hermione always took on a nurturing, older sister type role that sometimes irritated Harry. Instead of bringing him out of his depressive funks, she would push him at the wrong times, and it was usually up to Ron to get her to back off. As for Harry, he never once showed any romantic interest in her. There was no jealousy when he saw her giggling over Cedric with Ginny, or when she went to the Ball with Krum. In fact, he barely noticed her at all, since all of his attention was on Cho. And in sixth year, during the Christmas Party, he didn’t even care that McLaggen got carried away under the mistletoe. During the hunt, after Ron left, he spent all his time between the snitch, and looking for Ginny on the map. Very nice and argument free, but does that sound like a super close bond? Not really.
For Ron and Hermione, a lot of the fighting came from jealousy and the inability to properly express their feelings ON BOTH THEIR PARTS. But people act as if that was a constant state, instead of an occasional flareup.
And, ironically enough, it’s the way that Hermione and Harry fought that tells me they aren’t compatible. Not fighting isn’t always a good thing. There are several instances in the books where Harry, finally having enough, snaps at Hermione. And do you know what her reaction is? She gets all teary, and backs down. She looks afraid. And that’s because she doesn’t feel comfortable enough to stand up to him when he’s mad. With Ron, they’re on equal footing. Their kind of fighting is the kind found between people that are close to each other, where they can freely speak their minds. Harry needed Ginny. Ginny could get up in his face and tell him when he was being a twit, and pull him out of his own head. Ron was able to comfort Hermione, something Harry never really tried to do. Lack of fights isn’t a sign of a healthy relationship; it’s learning to fight the right way that matters.
Now, Before someone gets their feathers ruffled, I’m in no way implying that Harry would be abusive to Hermione. I’m simply saying that Harry’s habit of bottling up his emotions until they explode, and Hermione’s inability to know when to leave him alone or when to call him on it, would make for an unhappy relationship eventually. Harry would resent the smothering, and Hermione would resent not being able to speak her mind. I’ve seen relationships like that.
Please remember, in case you’ve never seen it yourself, that relationships can fall apart quietly, as well as loudly. These are usually followed by the phrases, “But they seemed fine!” and, “I thought they would be together forever!” “I never saw them fight at all!”
Some people need a good bicker to release their emotions. It takes a lot of love and trust to be able to do that with someone, and still know that they’ll be standing with you in the end.
What movie is this gif from?!
It was from an episode of Extras. Clip here: X
At least a year until Hermione finished school. I don’t see them waiting too long after that. They’ve been through enough to know they’re it for each other. Life is short yo.
You must not be a Grintson shipper and that’s okay because you recognize and accept Rupert’s ability to drop them panties!
No, I don’t. I mean, I don’t hate the addition of that scene, but when I write I draw from the books. Unless it’s part of a prompt, like in my one-shot, I Want You, where it was based on the piano scene ;) (insert shameless link here: STORY)
He’s a great actor. Also, he was in love with Emma. Just sayin!!!!! ;)